
Over time, I have noticed an interesting behavior in leaders that largely determines the culture of their organizations as well as the long-term success of that organization. It is simply this: Are the leaders playing to win or are they playing not to lose?
One would think that the difference between these behaviors is immediately apparent. Unfortunately, in my experience, the difference can be subtle and easily masked.
Some things to look for to determine how you and your team are leading include:
- In the end, does decision making reside in one or two people at the top of your company? Even for the seemingly small decisions? If so, it is likely that the level of risk aversion is high and that risk is being concentrated to make sure no big mistakes are made that lead to losing.
- Are project ideas and recommendations to create new lines of business caught up in red tape, infighting, excessive business reviews to determine progress (to the level that you plant the seed, watch the sapling come out of the ground, then dig up the plant to check the roots to see how it’s doing?) and a list of “Why are you doing it this ways?” as long as your arm? Such behavior is often used to avoid failure of the big idea by sabotaging it before the risk grows too large. The end result is the idea dies in the swamps on the way to the battlefield and never gets the chance to grow or fail spectacularly later on.
- Does your leadership team fall comfortably into a litany of excuses about why something cannot be done? Do any of these phrases sound familiar? We tried this in 1998 and it didn’t work. Remember John, he went down this path and was fired for his trouble. We don’t have the people, time, money, IT support, or space to do this. We are putting the quarter at risk if we spend this money now. We are in the middle of a recession. (Your own phrase here _________________)
- Does most of the leadership conversation focus on internal processes, organization chart re-arrangement, and responding to home office questions? Or does your conversation focus on external processes that serve the customer, understanding root causes of customer satisfaction and dissatisfaction and creating experiences that capture increasing share of wallet in every transaction?
- Does your team focus on a common enemy – a competitor – and build strategies to beat it or does your team focus on a mantra or vision that changes the world or at least the market in which you play? The latter leads to a sustainable business.
- Is your organization in a “prevent defense?” Are you trying to be as conservative as possible in order to hold on to market share rather than developing and delivering exceptional products and services to your existing customers to make them raving fans?
- Are leaders more interested in looking good or getting better? Leaders who are playing to win focus on an honest assessment of current reality, whatever that reveals. They then work to improve the chances that they and their organizations are prepared to lead the way in their markets. Leaders who are concerned with looking good tend to want to save face at any cost. This type of behavior destroys trust in an organization and leads to resentment when other team members are thrown under the bus when mistakes happen or results fall short of expectations.
How we decide to lead is up to us. Words mean something. Choosing the words we use and making the conscious decision to win rather than not lose makes all of the difference in the quality and power of the actions we end up taking to move our organizations forward.



